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Anger is caused by blocked goals. It is a normal emotional response to situations or people who seem to be preventing you from achieving a personal desire or goal. For instance, you may get angry when your parents refuse to allow you to purchase a certain item or tell you to be home earlier than you think is reasonable. They are preventing you from fulfilling your momentary desire to have or do something you want. You can reduce some of your anger by re-evaluating your goals.
Youll find that maybe some of your goals are improper. Heres a quick example:
Whenever Joe is denied,
hell be angry. Is this really an appropriate goal? If you were a girl on the
receiving end of Joes anger, how would it make you feel? When evaluating your goals,
you have to keep in mind that your actions affect the people around you also.
One day you are hanging out with your usual group of friends, but one of your buds is home sick. Suddenly the laid back afternoon becomes a heated gab session about the missing pal. People are bringing up all sorts of faults and frustrations they have. One person even goes so far as to say, Im glad hes stuck in bed with pneumonia, he might learn to stop making out with his slutty girlfriend in front of everyone. He makes me so sick. Doesnt he have any modesty?
Maybe youve been in a
situation like this and it made you really angry. You might be thinking, that
doesnt have anything to do with blocked goals, or the prevention of gaining my
desires. It does though. Each of us has inborn values or knowledge of whats
right or wrong, fair or unfair. Its called a conscience. Without even really
recognizing it, we all have goals such as to stop injustice, prevent hurt, pursue comfort
and happiness and uphold respect. Violations against peoples natural rights spark
our anger because we have subconscious objectives to protect what we feel we rightfully
possess as human beings. If your house was robbed or your car vandalized you would be
angry. When we see someone, or we ourselves are being robbed of a natural right, or
disrespected it makes us just as angry as when we are not permitted to do something that
we wanted to do.
When anger is channeled it
can be used very effectively. An example is from the Columbine High School. The fellow
students and families of the victims are using their anger to try and get the government
to toughen up on gun laws. We have yet to see the results of their efforts but instead of
simply nursing bitterness towards criminals or complaining about the problem but never
trying to improve it, we see angry people trying to better our country.