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How do you handle yourself when you get steamed? Take this quiz to find out the good and
bad sides of your anger expression patterns.
Youve planned on this party for over a month.
Everyone will be there and you are so excited. As you strut your way out the door, looking
very fine in your new clothes, your mom calls out, We have to be up early for your
sisters soccer game tomorrow. Be home by ten. Do you:
Spin around and yell,
What? Ten oclock? Mom! I might as well not even go. I never get to have any
fun! I dont even want to go to the dumb game. I hate this family!
Mutter, Not again.
My life is going down the drain because of their retarded family policies. But
reply, Yea, sure mom, the soccer game is way more important than this party.
Ive only been planning on it for a month. But fine.
Sigh and say, in a calm
but exasperated voice, Okay, but how about ten thirty? Then you agree to her
response without further argument.
You got slammed with a huge anatomy project to design
and build a model human skeleton. You and your partner agree to meet after school to
brainstorm. Your partner shows up ten minutes late and announces they made a commitment to
get burgers with some friends in 15 minutes. Situations similar to this keep occurring,
dumping the work on your already loaded shoulders. Do you:
Corner them after class
one day and shove the remainder of the project in their face demanding that they finish
their part of the work.
Every time theyre
within earshot, talk loudly about how slackers drive you crazy and how you hate it when
people screw around when theyre supposed to be working.
Leave a message on their
answering machine nicely reminding your partner to work on their part. You figure if they
dont do it, your teacher will give you a personal grade instead of a partnership
You arrange to meet your buds
at the theatre for a three oclock show. After forty-five minutes without seeing any
sign of life, you call your friends house to discover that they had left for the
swimming pool over an hour ago. Do you:
Storm home, slam the
front door and scream at your family for all the injustices of your life and the
inconsiderations theyve inflicted upon you for the past 17 years.
Sulk for the next two
days and wait for someone to call you. When the phone finally rings you answer,
About time you called me.
Head for the pool to join
them. Maybe they dont want you around, but you dont want to spend the
have agreed to babysit for your neighbors three year-old daughter. As the evening
goes on, the little angel raises hell, refusing to do anything you say. Responding to
every request with, Youre not my mommy, I dont have to. Do you:
Lose your temper and roar
about what a brat the kid is and how when their mommy gets home youll make sure they
never get out on good behaviour.
Send the kid to their
room, lock the door, raid the fridge, and swear to yourself never to have kids.
Decide to ignore the kid
while she terrorizes the house. Youre not paid enough to deal with her screaming
tantrums. Besides, your favorite sit-com is on.
You let your friend borrow one
of your CDs. Two weeks later, you ask for it back and they tell you theyll
bring it tomorrow. A month later, when you finally get it back, the case is cracked and
the CD has a major scratch down the middle. Do you:
Throw the CD at them,
ranting about respect for your things and finish the scene with, See if I ever let
you borrow my stuff again.
Call them later that day
and ask them to replace YOUR CD that THEY ruined. Besides, friends are supposed to respect
each other and their belongings. Its about time they took responsibility for
Put the CD in your bag,
pretty upset but do nothing about it. Maybe theyll offer to get you a new one, it
would only be right.
If you answered mostly a, then you get angry and youre not afraid
to show it. Feelings arent meant to be bottled up. However, extreme displays of
anger can be harmful to you and especially to the people around you. Next time you feel
your blood boiling, take a sec to think about how your rash reaction will affect people.
If youre constantly yelling, it will turn people away from you and they probably
will be less willing to show you their own emotions. If they have to fear for their life
in regards to your response, people will close up around you.
Answering mostly b shows that you handle your anger with sarcasm and risk
becoming bitter. You let your emotions flow and probably dont deal with a whole lot
of emotional tension. Although you dont tend to scream or throw large objects, your
expression of anger can still wound people. Consider what you say and how you say it. Then
place yourself in the shoes of the person youre angry with and imagine how your
typical response would feel. Not only will your expression hurt others and close up your
relationships (similar to above), but if bitterness develops it will eat away at you,
tainting your view of people and life in general.
A scorecard full of cs indicates a more passive response to anger.
Your reactions are sensitive to others, whether you mean them to be or not. You need to be
careful that pals dont begin taking advantage of your mild manner. Its okay to
tell people why youre frustrated or irritated. It may be hard at first but at least
theyll know you have boundaries that you will no tolerate to be crossed. Remember
internalized emotions really take a toll on your body and pent up anger can lead to
What ticks you off?
To read more about anger, and how it affects you.
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