Why We Drive Each Other Crazy
So, why do you think guys and gals drive each
Buffaloes and Butterflies
Describe and discuss the differences between a buffalo and a butterfly.
What if I taped a pebble to the back of a buffalo? What about a butterfly?
Note: any analogy breaks down at some point. This analogy doesnt necessarily compare buffaloes to men and butterflies to women, but rather it shows contrast.
Differences Between Guys and Gals
Here, the key word is different not wrong! It is okay to be different.
So how different are we? "Let me count the ways ".
1. In Physical Differences Alone
What are some of our physical differences?
(Ask those in your audience to give some examples.)
Beyond that: men are "brain-washed." Baby boys, while still in the womb waiting to be born, undergo sort of an "acid wash" from hormones in their mothers body. This separates their right-brain from their left-brain (you can explain differences in left and right brain). Girls do not get this same wash, and boys all get it at different strengths. Were all different, so we cant stereotype. In general, there are distinctive differences between guys and girls.
2. Compartmental vs. Universal
Here are some examples:
3. Logical vs. Intuitive
An Example: Adding machine vs. Computer
An adding machine adds up, when done you can have the tape go back and show exactly where you got your answer, double check, etc. Computer just pops out the answer, you have no idea how it came up with it, youre even skeptical, but its most likely right. Men think it through point by point like an adding machine and seem to need more time to do it. Women seem to assess the situation instantly.
By the way, a womans "intuition" actually gets too much credit for being a mystery. Its actually more easily linked to their universal ability to take so much in that they dont often realize theyve noted something and included it in their assessment.
4. Physical vs. Emotional
Boys like what they can touch, measure, color. Girls like what they feel good about. Think about children playing outside.
5. Separateness vs. Oneness
Making the Most of Our Differences
All this stuff really interrelates:
We are very different, but would we want a whole world of only buffaloes or of just butterflies? So, can a buffalo become a butterfly? Not at all! And we wouldnt want that. Rather, we can benefit and learn from the differences.
1. Benefits of the differences.
We can appreciate the way our differences balance each other out, and let them remain different.
2. Learn from the differences
Perhaps the buffalo can learn to be more sensitive, and the butterfly can become more sturdy. We can gain by learning from each other.
What To Do With the Differences
1. Ease up. Dont take differences as wrong or a threat.
2. Be a student. Study the likes and dislikes of male, female genders and individuals.
3. Listen. Ask, "What do you mean by that?"
4. Communicate. Tell a member of the opposite sex, "This is how I feel ..." and why.
5. Forgive. Cancel outstanding debts. Remember, they are not the enemy.
Youre asking me to love?
Now is that going too far? Remember:
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